Who Would You Choose…? <3

Who would you rather date?

Someone who obsesses over you on your amazing date, and then ignores you for 6 days in a row?  Or someone who gives you quick, sweet, lil “check in” every day? 

So, this post is not actually about dating…I’m talking about practice again… and the way you approach embarking on a new practice or project. 

I spend a lot of my day talking about progress and practice and the most efficient ways that we can get better at the things we care about.

And some of the resistance I get when I tell people about 10 minutes a day Club is: 

“10 minutes. What are you going to accomplish in 10 minutes? Is 10 Minutes going to take you anywhere? “
And the answer is YES. 

Especially if you are starting out, you probably don't have a lot of time carved out to spend on that practice quite yet, no matter how passionate you are at the start.

Let’s say, for example, you’ve fallen in love with singing and are trying to develop a singing practice, but you only have one hour a week to practice.

You are better off dividing that hour into nine-minute daily practice sessions
than you are doing a one-hour practice session once a week!

”But Beth, won't I get more out of the hour. Won't I able to go deeper and find more flow?”

So not exactly. While you might feel better at the end of a one-hour practice session, it’s not the best choice for long term grwoth. (Though it is better than nothing!)

We have to remember that every time we show up to practice, we are not picking up right where we left off, especially if we have this big gap in the middle of our practice sessions.

Our brain needs time and repetition to make your “gains” the new norm. Those new habits are formed faster when you engage with them each day, even if all you have to give right now is 9 minutes.

In short, prioritize daily attention over weekly intensity.

The brain science supports me on this…

…But I think it’s better illustrated in this dating analogy: 

Let's say you're in the early phases of dating two different people.

Person 1 is amazing at planning dates, and once a week, they sweep you right off your feet, and you feel like you're the only person in the world!…but then, they completely ignore you the rest of the week. Out of sight, out of mind.

Person 2, on the other hand, may not have a ton of extra time and money for fancy dates. However, they make it clear that you are on their mind!! Every day, they send you something sweet like:

“Hey, I was thinking of you, how is your day going?”

”Hey, I remember you said you liked this author. I wanted to learn more about them and found this interview! Have you seen it?” 

“Hey, you said you had a presentation today. Good luck! Let me know how it goes!”

(This is, of course, assuming you like this person and welcome texts from them…I’m not at all condoning bombarding someone until they fall in love with you, haha)

Which of those two people do you trust more?

Which one of those two people do you feel like you are actually getting to know them (the real them) better, and faster?

Which of those two people is more actively laying a foundation upon which something more long-term could grow?


Anyone who has been in a long-term loving relationship, as I'm lucky enough to say that I am will tell you that it's person number two.

It's the small but consistent things that matter much more than the inconsistent big things; the big sweeping gestures can be a lovely bonus, but they are meaningless without the strong foundation.

When you're building a new practice, it’s like you're starting a new relationship with it!

When you do just little check-ins every day, you're telling your brain,
“I care about this!” “I'm going to check in with my singing. I can’t wait to find out how my singing is doing today!”

This is not only more efficient from a habit-building and progress perspective,
But you are more quickly identifying as a singer, someone who is in a relationship with their craft, and building a real foundation upon which something long-term can grow!

We’re all about turning passion into progress here! But even the most passionate love affairs need to start with small acts of thoughtful care.