The New Year’s shiny motivation has worn off, and you might be thinking, “Ugh! I’m back to my old self…back on my bullsh*t!”

But there’s a secret gift here if we treat this discouragement like a clue!…

“Bad” isn’t all that bad because “bad” points us toward “better!”

The idea of New Year’s Resolutions has me in conflict with myself and my values…
1. I believe in the power of habits and a fresh start!
2. I don’t want to contribute to the noise we’re bombarded with this time of year that makes us feel “not enough.”

So, come with me as I detangle these feelings:
-Why do they come up? (Spoiler: capitalism)
-What do we do about it?
-How do we take advantage of this time of new beginnings without jumping headfirst into a shame spiral on January 14th?

Dear Fellow Procrastinators!

There’s nothing wrong with YOU! It’s simply time to embrace our ways! Let’s work with our tendencies as they are…not not how we (or others) think they should be.

“There’s a million habit-hacks out there.
How can I find out and choose which will actually work for me?”

Allow me to pair your habit tool with your main struggle.

Our ‘shoulds’ outweigh our resources!
Prioritize what actually matters!

If you’re mode of “discipline” is just yelling at yourself…that’s not discipline, it’s just shame.

If you find it difficult to maintain “balance” in your life…you’re correct! Balance isn’t something you find. It’s something you continuously fight for.

We need consistency and routine to make progress in our creative professions…..but in creative professions, there is no such thing as consistency or routine!!
So what do we do?

It might be time to let go of the “perfect routine” dream.

What you want is on the other side of “starting.” Make starting feel as fun, light, and simple as possible!

I’m currently getting worse…but it’s the only path to better.

Trying to build a habit or routine using only discipline is like trying to build a piece of furniture or a house using only hammers.

Our goals should take us closer to our best selves…but our current selves is the one who need to take us there…and our current self is usually tired. So let’s set out tired selves up for success.

“Noticing” is the win!

Summary: The more I learn about how my plant babies’ grow, the more I learn about how we grow. Here are some of this month’s Ah-Ha’s.

…What you really want.

The short answer:
”Bad habits” —> immediate reward.
“Good habits” —> long-term reward.
And your brain doesn’t care that much about your future…

When building a new habit, we’re not starting wih a blank canvas. We’re reprograming a current “default” mode.

Before we talk about the new habits we want to create, we have to talk about the habits we currently have.

There’s often a gap between what we want to do and what we actually do… What do we do about it?

By deicing “what counts” toward your daily progress ahead of time, you can save precious brain space, avoid decision fatigue, and stop calling your “worthiness” into question. Here’s how to create your “what counts menu.”…